Expectations Are Not Facts

Expectations Are Not Facts

In the past, inappropriate expectations convinced me I was NOT enough and life was colorless. Understanding the difference between “associations” and “triggers” has provided me with this healing Understanding: Expectations are NOT facts. ...
Unbound Awareness

Unbound Awareness

. Do you ever *wish* you could say what you are feeling or thinking but with words that genuinely describe how YOU think, feel, and believe?   Self-expression, Sharing, and Public Speaking can tap into my old friend, Anxiety IF I allow it. Why? My child-self...
It’s Not About Me

It’s Not About Me

The passing of my husband left me abruptly awake to the future risks and challenges I would face in financial, social, emotional, psychological, and physical areas of life while raising my grandson alone. That wasn’t my only wake-up call.  What I...
The Guilt of Anxiety

The Guilt of Anxiety

Winter was always valid as an excuse for me to admire the world from a distance without guilting myself into anxiety and worry that I am not Being or Doing enough. But why only in the cold months? Most people would agree a cozy warm blanket and hot drink are preferred...
Confirmation Bias & Trauma Recovery

Confirmation Bias & Trauma Recovery

Some know I’m writing my second book and it includes a chapter on the concept of Acknowledgment in trauma recovery.  So, recently in a deep discussion about Acknowledgment,  I knew I understood the concept but was challenged by exactly how I began to...
It’s Up To Us

It’s Up To Us

When I learn a frightening truth that affects my family — the children I gave birth to, their families, and my grandchildren, I take it personally.  My first reaction to the “news” was what? How the hell did we get here? I knew how; however, my...