Sometimes Love is Not Enough

The day following Thanksgiving is National Day of Listening, created by StoryCorps. My thoughts went to how I have not Heard as well as I wanted to the pain my tween has been experiencing. I’d like to share with you my thoughts on what a lack of Awareness and Listening can lead to. To borrow […]

Safety of Presence

. The atmosphere in my home lately could best be described as borderline insanity.  Motives are never as simple as we believe, no matter our backstory, how old, or who we are. There’s always more to Understand. For example, the atmosphere in my home lately could best be described as borderline insanity. What appeared to […]

Expectations Are Not Facts

In the past, inappropriate expectations convinced me I was NOT enough and life was colorless. Understanding the difference between “associations” and “triggers” has provided me with this healing Understanding: Expectations are NOT facts.  To the best of my understanding, if I am NOT Aware when a reminder of a past upsetting event is presented (even […]

The Guilt of Anxiety

Winter was always valid as an excuse for me to admire the world from a distance without guilting myself into anxiety and worry that I am not Being or Doing enough. But why only in the cold months? Most people would agree a cozy warm blanket and hot drink are preferred over the cold and […]

Confirmation Bias & Trauma Recovery

Some know I’m writing my second book and it includes a chapter on the concept of Acknowledgment in trauma recovery.  So, recently in a deep discussion about Acknowledgment,  I knew I understood the concept but was challenged by exactly how I began to Acknowledge my dark truths.  Then today, journaling my takeaway from the conversation, […]